In essence, friendships should bring emotional consolation and joy; however, the person on the other side sometimes does not care to join in. It really hurts to recognize that, for whatever reason, the other person does not want to be your friend; however, learning to recognize some of the signs can get you out of some ridiculous waste of time and energy.
Here are thirteen glaring signs that some do not want your friendship anymore:
One-Word Responses
If your multi-line message is greeted with responses like “K,” “Cool,” or an emoji of some thumbs-up, this person is trying to abandon the conversation. They have no intention of upholding any form of “hooks” for you grasping higher up in order to keep chatting because they simply do not wish to keep chatting.
Always the One Who Calls or Texts
Just scroll through call logs or text messages. If you can see quite visibly that you are the only one keeping in touch, asking to hang out, or checking in, there is an obvious imbalance. Should you stop texting today and never hear from your friend again, chances are they have already checked out.
Always Busy
Everybody is busy, or we would rather term it busy doing something much more important. Whoever always puts an announcement: I am busy with things but parades in front of the social media with people doing fairly well has long been an expression for saying, the person is just not interested in seeing you.
No Follow-Up Questions
To maintain a good friendship, they must ask about your life. If you keep piling questions on them about work, hobbies, or whatever else but hardly get anything deeper than “cool” in response, they are just not interested in knowing you or about you.
No Clear Plan Arose
If you by any chance bring out some suggestion for some date and they respond ambiguously with maybe, or maybe next month, they stay pretty clear from being tied down to seeing you.
Closed Body Language
What is their behavior toward you? Do they turn their body away, keep on checking their phone, or avoid any eye contact whatsoever? These might be signs that suggest they’d rather be anywhere else.
They Keep it Shallow
They may be talking with you about the weather, or chatting about some current news action, but they never share anything about themselves. They like to share only on the “safe” and shallow side so that they don’t run the risks of deeper intimacy in the friendship.
Contacts Only When in Need
This, above all, is a clear indication of an exploitative or at least something transactional relationship, not a real friendship at all. Anyone who just rings you up to ask for a favor or advice at any time when it serves their interest is using you and not really appreciating you for who you are.
The Last-Minute Cancellations
Such blatant rejection of your time, and by implication that of any future fun with them, should put you on red alert for such last-minute cancellations!
They Never Introduce You to Other People
Whenever they come across friends with you, they do not bother introducing you to them, or they never invite you to larger outings, deliberately excluding you from their socials.
Seems Like an Interview
If you always pull teeth to keep a conversation going, with the awkward silence punctuated by them, the friendship isn’t there. Genuine friendships are fluent.
They Forget Important Information
You told them things like “ I’m allergic to peanuts”and “my cat died”-and they don’t remember. It’s because they were either not paying attention to anything you were saying or they simply don’t care to hear what you have to say.
They Never Consider Any Progression in the Relationship
If after 2 years of so-called acquaintance they still talk to you in all that stiff politeness of day one, this means they are very comfortable with that distance and do not want to move toward a close friendship.
