To be really fond of someone is a really fine experience; however, sometimes it may make us lose our sense of judgment. Being in the extreme trial of the honeymoon phase, one may tend to think that one should do everything for the happiness of the significant other. A healthy relationship is mutual respect as well as balance; it should never be one person losing himself or herself to the other. Actually, boundaries are what are keeping it strong and sustainable over the long term.
Here are 8 things a lady should never do for a man, even in the event of extreme love:
Give Up Your Financial Independence
No matter how well you believe you know someone, do not ever give up your ability to earn your own living. From quitting your job to handing over total control of your bank accounts, losing your financial autonomy can end up tearing you apart from your partner, making the relationship healthy and safe. A healthy partner believes you have your own safety net and respects your goals in your career.
Abandon Your Friends and Family
This man should add on to your life, not your complete world. Couples who try to isolate you or even make you feel guilty for having time with family are really a major red flag. Your support system is vital for your mental health; never push away the people who were there before he arrived.
Change Your Physical Appearance to Suit His Taste
If he likes blonde hair but you love your dark curls, stay dark. If he wants you to dress differently or lose weight to fit his “ideal,” he isn’t in love with you-he is in love with an image. Changing your whole body or style so that it appears in a way that is approved by someone else leads to resentment.
Compromise Your Core Values
It doesn’t matter what it is, whether your religious beliefs, your opinions on bearing children, or even your moral compass, you never dim your light or change your beliefs to suit him or her and if you have to betray your own conscience to keep him happy, soon you will lose your sense of self-respect.
Give Up Your Dreams or Hobbies
Do not set aside your passion in painting, traveling, or pursuing a career just because he finds it inconvenient. What makes your hobbies and dreams unique is what makes you the person he fell in love with. A supportive man will rather be your cheering most than an obstacle to your success.
Tolerate Disrespect or Abuse
Bad behavior never justifies love. Emotional ill manipulations, constant criticisms, or even physical injuries should never be written off expecting that ”love will change him”. Respect is the backbone of any relationship; without respect, there is no existence of love.
Be His Only Source of Emotional Support
Don’t play his personal therapist-in other words, mother and even private assistant. You should give your support; however, he still has to mature emotionally and figure out his own coping mechanisms. All your energy ‘fixing’ his life would eventually leave you completely drained and neglected.
Hide Your Intelligence or Success
Never “pretend to be dumb” or play down your accomplishments out of fear of bruising his ego. A man who considers your bright mind or salary a threat is definitely not going to be someone who grows with you. You deserve a person who is actually proud to stand beside an accomplished, intelligent woman.
